Why questioning and standards are important:
Story 1
I got sick and tired of having no standards. Sick of not being a savage, not having my own opinion, being scared of walking away, having to listen to someone when I don’t feel like listening, tied down to certain people that I don’t want around, always worried about making everyone happy, dealing with people whose don’t respect my mood, and choosing others over myself. The list goes on and on.
I asked myself, Why? Then with a sheet of paper proceeded to analyze. How did I end up like that? Why am I following those behaviors? I started changing myself to fit my current needs and It didn’t matter if it took years.
I finally prioritized to make myself happy. Trying to be as nice as I can without stepping into my boundaries.
Story 2
Joe woke each day and let the day choose his path. He said yes when he wanted to say no. He stayed when he should have left. When rain fell on his day off, he went back to bed and called it a fate, friends picked the songs, the games, the place to meet, Joe had no opinion, He backed down when disrespected, He tried to make everyone else happy and totally forgot about himself.
Joe moved through life on rails. He copied whatever worked, took the tasks others avoided. He never asked, “What do I want? Who is Joe?” Without questions, He nodded through meetings, agreed to plans that drained him. Years passed. On a late bus he finally whispered, “Why am I here?” The answer did not come, he couldn’t figure it out. Joe never found the courage to question himself thus nothing changed.
On the other hand,
Kevin was the kind of person who asked Why before every decision. Though carefully before every action. When a trait looked old, he tapped to see if it would go. Kevin prioritized work that mattered to him, and said no in a polite way without guilt. he began to get his way in life and people around had to respect his traits,
The path was forged by Kevin, handful by handful, rock by rock making him way happier in life. It all started with a simple question, “Why”
Story Summary
If your environment overpowers you, you risk becoming the product. Avoid it by questioning yourself, then proceed to change it.
Action Prompts
Grab a pen and paper, take action, and question yourself along the way:
Shape your path way by questioning everything. Literally everything. Why am I like that? Why did that happen to me? It might be hard and devastating but once you go through it, you’ll truly become a better version of yourself.
- Why am I letting my environment dictate my choices?
- Why do I think, feel, and act the way I do?
- What past experiences shaped who I am today?
- What past experiences shaped who I am today?
Personality Traits
You’ll need to change your personality traits. In the title it says that no one is allowed to bend those personality traits but you will have to pick high quality traits that work.
- What is not working anymore and has to change?
- Which of my personality traits are holding me back from success?
- What high-quality traits do I need to develop to thrive?
- Which traits should I strengthen to align with winning?
Break Questions Into Smaller Parts
Break questions into smaller parts. Just like a drop of water can be split into atoms, any subject can be understood piece by piece using this strategy.
- Which challenge, if solved, will bring me closer to becoming an expert in the game?
- What is the smallest part a problem I can understand first?
- How can breaking this into smaller parts make it easier to master?
Endless Self-Questioning
Self-questioning is endless. After “Why” comes “What.” Be kind to yourself, take the time you need, and commit to action.
- What is the next question I should be analyzing right now?
- What part of my life deserves my immediate focus and analysis?
- What is the next thing about myself I need to fully understand?
- Which question, if explored now, will have the greatest impact on my growth?